A good friend told me recently that "you don't have to be what you were first."
Okay, actually Jen Hatmaker told me that recently. And maybe she didn't exactly "tell" me, but instead I read it in her newest book "Of Mess And Moxie". Either way, we were sitting on my couch together, just the two of us, having coffee and talking. I suggest you have that cup of coffee with Jen too, because I love you.
As we talked, those words, "you don't have to be what you were first," hit me like a breath of fresh air. They were a complete validation of pretty much my entire existence.
You see, if there is one thing that is certain about who I am, it is that I am always changing. As I reflect on my life (and I do that a lot) I am never who I expected myself to be - not a decade ago, not even yesterday.
Are you who you expected to be? Are you always changing?
As I listened to Jen over our cup of coffee, I realized that my biggest problem was simply that I felt a whole bunch ashamed and equal parts embarrassed by all my changing. In the back of my mind, I was always asking myself, "what is wrong with me that I am always becoming something different? Why can't I just be who I am and stay that way?"
In fact, it had gotten to the point where all of my changing had actually made me stuck right where I was. It had made me afraid to change again.
You see I have been a whole lot of things. A professional economist, a cancer patient, a small business owner, a blogger, a CMO, a CFO and a COO. And, truth be told, in many ways I am still all of those things and a whole lot more.
Those few little words whispered into my head over and over - you don't have to be who you were first - left me completely liberated. They unstuck me.
And girlfriend, that is how we find ourselves right here, right now together. At Saylor Place.
Saylor Place is our family home. It is a little corner of this gorgeous planet where I design our lives.
Some days you'll find me tucked onto our outdoor patio overlooking our woods designing gorgeous stationery for you to write love letters or inspiring words to decorate your home. Other days, you'll find me deep in our kitchen designing what's for dinner, yo! On the weekends, you'll find our family designing (and building!) our home renovations, whew! And, any single day of the week, you will find my partner in crime, my husband Aaron, and I designing the growth of our family's landscape design and build business. This is Saylor Place.
Always changing. Never who we were first.
Welcome, to our home.